The Departure

A close friend to my Dad passed away this morning, in his sleep, in the hospital bed. It saddened me deeply.Surely it will affect Dad as well because Dad told me sometimes ago that he was struggling to tell Dad something, but he could not. He could'nt speak anymore for quite sometimes. He tried to write his words down but his hand kept failing him. After several attempts, he gave up and look away, tears ran down his haggard cheek. And Dad look down, sharing his grief.I guess Dad will regret it for a long time, he kept telling us that he must had something in his mind that he wanted to share.

After a year of a real suffering, he passed on. After series of troll and saga he was called to his Creator.Well, at least it was the end for him.

I dont mean in anyways to talk bad things about Arwah, but I wish to share with my reader the facts of life , thru Arwah's storyline.

Years ago, Uncle L was a perfect father figure and an iconic husband. His family amazed everybody who knew him. He was a father of 9 (if I'm not mistaken). His wife adored him, a perfect loving couple in the eyes of the beholder. He was an established businessman, drove a Merc, live in a big bungalow, his better half is teacher, sweet, motherly and a nice lady.His children are a sweet docile lots.Always a better comparison to us, a bunch of four , but neighbours had always thought my parents had more than that judging by the noise we made. He seemed to be an envy to any man.

Until then...when he decided to take a second wife.

His decision surprised everybody including Aunty M who thought her dooms day had finally came. And his children was devastated. My self was no exception. I wanted to know his REASON for doing so as I dont see any.

He told Mom that there was nothing wrong with Aunty M, but it was meant to be. He fell in love, and was mesmerized by the woman's kindness in helping him in his business. Well that is not a satisfactory reason to any woman, a rather jahanam one infact, but I am glad that he was honest and he didnt t spread bad things about Auty M or using her as an excuse.

Aunty M came to my Mom's and confide to her, she even asked me for a legal advice (Me??? errrr) and the only thing I could tell her was she got to decide what she wants for her, and not to use her grown up children as an excuse or escapism. If she couldnt take it, she should asked him to let her go, because if she is not strong to face the turmoil, it will sinned both of them. And if she believed and trust him, love him, than she need to ask from Allah to bestow her with strengh to go on. Because there was no other things that can be done, HE HAD MARRIED the woman. I had to offer her a realistic advise and at the same time being sympathetic to her. If I would follow the setan in my gutts, I would have asked her to bring a parang and give both of them a silambam in the groin or print the biggest billboard ever at the North-South Highway saying "LAKI KU MIANG' with a gigantic picture of him. I did not, (well, after my Mom gave me a pinch on my thigh of course ewwww).

Their children went to Mom's for comfort and shoulder to cry on too. (No, my mom did not operate an agony clinic in her home, but yess she offer that kind of service FOC 24/7). I was there that time, in fact I was there when the whole episode took place since I was overhauling my allignment at her home (dalam pantang la labuu, in confinement). Gracious God I was not meroyan for having to console them. Not that I am complaining, but I share their sorrow deeply.I feel them honestly.

Another heart breaking news, the other woman is a sister to my dear juniour in Uni and she was my seniour as well. She was a divorcee with kids of her own. She had a fair share of sad story in life as well caused by a hang suah husband.

Was I am in dilemma or not ....

In short, Aunty M did the biggest turn in her life, she asked for divorce but her husband refused. She took a big step ahead and applied for a transfer down south. Her children followed her.

Uncle L was not himself since then. He gained a new family but lost his wonderful past. He could not erased them from his being, he missed them, long for them the entire time.

But his children had heart of stone , and their mother? Lagilah.

They just invited him to be a wali twice.

Sad.

That just prove it takes a man who is man enough to practice polygamy, its not easy as it seemed. Uncle L was an Imam in our neighbourhood Mussola and Aunty M is a religious soul, but they were not tough enough to trail the path. It was not enough for Uncle L. He might thought that he had the means (as every man perasan they have) but in reality he might had just that but not the aura and will to do so. And perhaps it was just his ego and his attempt to test market.

Until he felt sick.

Until he took off this morning.

Life is not as beautiful as in Cerekarama or Vanavil where first wife and second wife repented and become best friend upon knowing their husband is dying.

In real life, they make a cerekarama of their own in the hospital room.

It was hideous.

I couldnt help myself thinking that had he not done what he had done , would his life be different? Would his death be of a different scenario?

Would he be missed more? Did he regret? Why was he not content with what he had? What more did he wanted? Was'nt it enough?

I think death is anticipated by him, to end his sorrow.And I do think his death ends a lot of things and not just misery alone, I hope it ends hatred and sarcasm as well.

And despite the many souls that he supposed to father and mate, despite the many being he try to unite in a marriage bond, he die alone.

Allah Maha Bijaksana........Pasti ada rahmat di sebalik setiap kematian dan kedukaan.

Al-Fatihah. Rest in peace Uncle L.

* Hazrey, dont do this at home o, sengsara idup ko nanti.Menggatal je kat luar jgn bawak balik pompuan skirt merah kat umah ok, kudunng plak tangan ko karang.

Pulanglah......

Dedicated to Kanda yang sedang berada jauh di perantauan dan akan balik esok...(maaf kualiti video kurang memuaskan sebab cameraman amatur dan masih sedang berkursus)

"Pulanglah ku menantimu oh sayang, ku menunggu dengan hati rela...."

(Uwekkkkkk)

Yelah rindu la jugak kat u tapi I dah nak sewel sebab anak2 U buli I waaaaaa.

Tengok la , suruh mengaji main2. I cakap "U all ni nak memain ke nak mengaji?" Dengan sepakat mereka berkata "Nak main, yeeeeea, boleh ke?"

"I cakap kalau tak nak ngaji pergi simpan la Muqaddam tu", guess what dema jawab "Ok mommy". Betul2 pulak dema pergi simpan.

Tiap kali nak makan, demand teringin macam-macam, alasannya, anak dara u yg becok tu cakap "I miss Daddy, tak lalu makan, tapi kalau Mommy belikan McD nuggets, bolehlah kot Kakak makan sket".

Anak bujang U lagi bermaharajalela membuli sebab U dah pandai2 appoint dia jadi assistant so when U are not around he said he is in charge. Goyang kaki je dok kat sofa, nak air pun suruh stewardess2 kenit ni ambilkan, dia main order je sebab dia cakap bila U tak de, dia boss. (di manakah agaknya dia dapat idea kalau jadi bapak hanya duduk goyang kaki je , kalau nak apa2 suruh je orang ambik, I wonder lah...U heran tak? hmmmmmm) Kecik2 dah tunjuk bakat jadi Sivaji. Yang tu surely tak ikut Mommy sebab Mommy baik dan bersopan santun.

Baby debab tu, paling kecoh dalam bab memporakperandakan rumah kita. Kalau I solat pun dia solat sama, masalahnya dia solat kat depan I, atas sejadah I jugak....waaaaa.

Balik la cepat, temperature I berada di takat didih je bila kat umah tau, dan I perasan dah byk bulu buluan tumbuh kat badan I, kalau U lelama lagi kat situ, kalau u balik nampak werewolf atas katil, jangan panggil bomba ok, panggil bomoh sebab itulah I yang dah transform.

Please la, take the first flight home, tak yah la nak tunggu KLM or Emirate apa bagai, naik je la Biman Air ke Air Sri Lanka ka, I doakan U selamat, insyallah doa orang teraniaya ni makbul ok(teraniaya pa, u out station I kena jaga anak sorang diri, Bibik buat house work saja ok)

Akhir kata, jgn buat lupa plak perfume Pacco Rabbane I tu yek, kalau u tak beli, I lari dari rumah karang, dah la tertekan ni...

Bye,

Yang ikhlas,

Isterimu.

LYANA MAUSETH.......kirim salam

LYANA MAUSETH a.k.a Lyana from Norway (to some people) yang tengah berperang dengan gigih dan mengah text me pepagi tadi sebab dia tengah pening kepala nak pindah rumah, tempah curtain, kena byr stamp duty rumah bla bla yada yada.

So dia tak sempat nak up date blog dia......so she said :-

"Kalau hang update blog hang tolong kirim salam kat depa semua nooo. Aku dah biol ni" (chewahhh jelita gaban hang kan, buleh plak macam tu no..)

Buleh, buleh sebab kita bersaudara and partner in crime aku akan tulung ok bebeh.

So to all of u who knows her tolong la terima salam dia because mana la tau kan kot2 betul dia biul she might not remember all of u kan.

* Ha, aku nak mee udang sg dua and hand bag LV monogram satu , tu je aku tak demand k. Chio

Butang Baju Melayu

This morning, Kanda woke me up which he seldom does. He goes to work very early because he works for the Government of Malaysia. I on the other hand work my ass out to make one man kaya raya.Normally he will just kiss my forehead and offer his hand for me to kiss dalam keadaan separuh sedar. Well, I pun seldom menghantar him ke muka pintu kerana I adalah 'Isteri Solehah Berkala' - Kadang-kadang rajin most of the time Malasss.I need my beauty sleep well done ok.

Akan tetapi ada satu masaelah.....his words made me jumped out of bed and almost made a summersault.

" Butang baju melayu I mana Yang......................?

" U kata apa? Cuba ulangi lagi berkali-kali?"

" Butang Baju Melayu I mana daaa?"

And in the dim lite I saw him getting dress, a baju melayu suit secara lengkap.

" Why la u wear baju Melayu? Ada function apa? "

"Its Friday kan, biasa la"

" Tak biasa. It has been ages since u pakai baju Melayu on Friday, u ni nak pi

masjid ka buat masjid?"

"Cakap baek sket"

"Cakap la cakap la pasai pa?"

" Ala, jangan kutuk" (knowing my favourite past time adalah kutuk dia)

"Apa lak kutuk I kritik je, constructive critism coming from a wife is genuine and sincere ok, can't get it anywhere"

"Interview tu today"

Ohhh suddenly I remembered, he applied for a post of a higher position (chehhh uweek) within his organisation.

So, ini adalah kes membodek dari segenap segi. Because last few nites he was busy preparing proposals to be presented during the interview.

Gilaaa hebat laki aku kan, bukan orang nak interview dia, dia yang nak pshyco interviewer.

His strategy is sebelum dibunuh dengan soalan-soalan yang membunuh, baik la tunjuk baguss dulu. At least kalau ada soalan yang tak boleh digoreng, boleh dicover up dengan molek oleh performance dia yang best. Cheh....Jahanam.

Katanya sejak Selangor bertukar arah ni, panel-panel interviewer pun religious sket. Apart pun asking the usual "What do U think the most effective measure to enhance corporate governance in this organisation bla bla, they would also sometimes ask the Rukun Solat, sifat 20 etc....(I like.)..

Fenomena mempoyokan diri sendiri ni has become his trademark yang I tak boleh absorbed...

Lantaklah labuu, I still wish him best of luck anyway.

Lastly ,after wishing him well, I hand over a print out that I printed

sometimes ago.

" Nah, this might help, mana tau depa tanya satlagi"

He took it, and after reading the title, he exclaimed....."Kambing Ar"....

The printout is entitled "CIRI-CIRI SUAMI SOLEH "

Eh I salah cakap ke???

My say..

Congratulations To Dato' Seri Ir Nizar, u deserved it.......

• I akan balik mengundi dengan gigih if I were a voter in Bukit Gantang.Even if my boss didnot approve my leave, I would still go. However, he won and I am glad.

• Allah bersama-sama orang-orang yang sabar, Alhamdullillah.

• So abg Zambry jangan suka pandang rendah kat orang. Have some respect to your brother in Islam.

• U kata rakyat Perak dah tolak Dato' Sri kan? Now, swallow your own words.
  
• Sampaikan orang tu imamkan solat Maghrib pun U nak kecoh, sampaikan orang tu bagi tazkirah pun U terasa. Apake hey? Why didnt U imamkan solat Isya' pulak lepas tu, surely your makmum would be pleased to have U leading them in prayer, tak kan tak boleh kot? Memimpin rakyat Perak yang berapa puluh ribu tu boleh. Afterall, being an Imam is all about leadership. If u are qualified to lead your people as a whole, U should also qualified to lead a congregational prayer.

• U said Dato' Sri buat cerita kartun, and now sape yang kartun?
  
• Tau pasai ape U all were defeated? Sebab suka underestimate daya intelek pengundi-pengundi.

Lain kali jangan buat konsert separa porno masa ceramah macam ni lagi tau.Jangan ingat Chinese terlalu teruja tengok Pussycat Amoi ni nyanyi sampai sure they will vote for you. No, dont ever do this again, please.The people want the real Pussycat Dolls ok, uncensored, without having to oblige the dresscode regulation.

Practice what U preach. Abg Anjib kata U all must CHANGED. Apa yang U all changed? Still kutuk mengutuk, Ustaz pun korang kutuk. Like David Teoh said, "I promote my product, I dont condemn other people's product'.Follow his example.

Stop giving cheap tokens to voters. Last time in Pendang U all bagi kain batik and RM200-00 per person.Now U all up sket, bagi basikal and duit RM400-00.Its not enough, U all should give Air Asia Tickets to London to youngsters and tickets pergi Umrah untuk warga emas.Bicycles??? Orang pekan je naik basikal sekarang. (Sumber daripada maklumat dalaman ok, yang terbabit masukkan duit dalam sampul, not fitnah).

U all said must follow Pakatan style, must masuk kampung turun padang....apa barang. Must take them to your house la for lunch. Or make lucky draw to orang kampung, sapa menang can go vacation to Disneyland with the pemimpin.

Dont manipulate mainstream media for propaganda, coz people in Bukit Gantang dont watch news on tv anymore, they google for Malaysiakini. So start blogging everybody. Even Tok Guru has his own blog.Now abg Anjib dah buat dah blog dia. Dah u all have all the money in the world to waste, why dont U promote your own blog. Parti sebelah sana tu tak ada duit pun nak promote blog masing-masing , harapkan nuffnang je. But people do read them.

U all wasted tax payer's money buat iklan kisah sejarah pemimpin parti lawan, what for? U all punya kisah lampau U all buat-buat lupa pulak, as if it never happened. Dah habis tactic dah??? Abg Anjib even said he support independance media, but be fair. Fair to U all ke maksudnya? He even said stop personal attack. On him and all of U ke?

I still have my stand, that I dont support any party, but I support the Leader who is a qualified leader, whoever he is and regardless of the party he represented.

But I felt sick that my own people fights and divide.

At the end, we are not judged in the hereafter by our race but our faith.

We should unite in the name of ISLAM, because you can fight and disagree on everything , claiming that U are more malay than the other, but you cant never fight because of your religion, instead you are bind by it .

I am sad that we talk bad of our own brothers, we condemn each other just because we dont share similar political ideology.

In our religion, politic is a part of life. We cant separate politics from religion as Islam is the way of LIFE, not just a religion.

And politics is not dirty, its U who chose to mess your hands with stains.

Kembalilah.....

*Abg Anjib, I think U already got the message by now.

Mari-marilah balik mengundi

I am a registered voter for DUN Bukit Selambau. But I decided not to balik kampung for tomorrow's by-election.

• Firstly, its on Tuesday....working day. My boss is a businessman cum corporate lawyer who hates politic. End of story.

• Secondly, there are 15 candidates to choose from and I have problems with choice. I hate to choose.

• And 15? WTF.....its like choosing artis paling popular for Anugerah Berita Harian.

And my parents????? I heard they are going for a picnic at my dad's dusun wa hahaa. I think its hereditary, they must be having the same dilemma.

• To all the voters who decided to vote, Selamat mengundi.

• To my beloved ******, (u know who u are) Selamat Berkempen, dengan pesanan jaga tingkah laku, jaga nama baik keluarga, jangan over gedik, walaupun hang 'puteri' tapi hang dah mak orang.......and lastly jgn hang salah guna nombor i/c aku ok.

Renungan Jumaat

AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRY ANDELIMINATE CANCER, JOHNS HOPKINS IS FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THEREIS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY .

• Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a fewbillion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests areunable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

• Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

• When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.

• When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental,food and lifestyle factors.

• To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

• Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow,gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

• Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

• Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do notresult in more tumor destruction.

• When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hencethe person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

• Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancercells to spread to other sites.

• An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

WHAT CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

• Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes likeNutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molassesbut only in very sma ll amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

• Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk andsubstituting with unsweetened soy milk, cancer cells are being starved.

• Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather thanbeef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

• A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkalineenvironment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reachdown to cellular levels within 15 minutes to no urish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells tryand drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed attemperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).

• Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties.Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

• Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrifiedand leads to more toxic buildup.

• Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls ofcancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

• Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable thebody's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, thebody's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

• Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger,unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relaxand enjoy life.

• Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellularlevel. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.